First off, I’d really like to thank you all for your feedback on my previous post about the #PerfectNever movement; it’s amazing to me how many of you feel the same way about the portrayal of “perfection” on social media. So, if you’ve ever been made to feel inferior by the bodies, clothes, objects, and lifestyles splashed across your Instagram feed, you should just know that you aren’t alone–it seems like everyone finds it just as annoying as you do!
Here’s the thing about “perfection”: it’s A) subjective and B) elusive. Remember that song that Annie sings in the orphanage, about how tomorrow is always a day away? Perfection will always move away from you, no matter how many steps you think you are taking toward it.
Let’s say you’re working on your flexibility…when you first start out, you might think, “If only I could touch my toes…” Then, once you can touch your toes, you’ll say, “I wish I could do the splits.” No matter how many of your goals you achieve, you’ll always come up with ways to improve. And, honestly, that can be a good thing; it’s that drive that will keep you from staying stagnant all your life. The desire to improve can lead you to do just that: improve! But you have to be careful…
For better or for worse, I tend to be a “glass-half-empty” type of person when it comes to judging myself and my work; I can always find ways to improve or make things better. In a lot of ways, this quality has pushed me to produce some of my greatest work and put my best foot forward in a lot of situations. But, at the same time, it can also leave me feeling exhausted and drained or like I’m never good enough.
As with most things in life, I guess it’s really just all about finding a balance between the desire to improve upon things and patting yourself on the back for what you’ve already accomplished.
I’m still trying to find the exact formula for being confident but not complacent in my own life, but I’ll be sure to share that info when I figure it out. Until then, I’m just trying to remember that imperfections can be viewed as opportunities to grow–even if that just means building up the self-love and self-acceptance to decide not to change it. Either way, I’m working on myself, and that’s really all I can ask for.